A clash of personalities and values leads to a tragedy that could be avoided, if only the mother in law were slightly more silent, less aggressive - and the son in law a bit less of a spoilt brat as males brought up in patriarchy often tend to be, expecting the females around to be compliant regardless of age, seniority or relationship!
In the process, the two end up destroying the love life of the person that is the connection, a delicate, caring, brilliant, lovely daughter of one and wife of the other. She, with a persona much like her academically inclined gentle father, is caught between the aggressive mother who was brought up in luxury and rues her own husband's lack of regard for wealth and frills, and the husband who is more simple in his bringing up and idealistic in his persona with more thought to actual subject matters of study than the worldly price he can command or the path that will take him to those positions.
The young husband is last heard of as resigned and left the country, and his colleague blames the wife for having destroyed his life. This, though, is strictly patriarchal position, for in the society she is brought up in, her life is far more unlikely to blossom again, especially given her personality, while in his case there is every chance that the same society - or any other society across the world for that matter - would serve him up with tempting proposals on and on, and it would only be his own strength in resisting it that would keep him from another marriage. And if he were a little less proud or a bit more comprehending, he could look for her and claim her back, which he hasn't left her any possibility of doing. But his own limitations stop him from such a step, as the viewer comes to see by the end of the film.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MjPSPTM4lF0
In the process, the two end up destroying the love life of the person that is the connection, a delicate, caring, brilliant, lovely daughter of one and wife of the other. She, with a persona much like her academically inclined gentle father, is caught between the aggressive mother who was brought up in luxury and rues her own husband's lack of regard for wealth and frills, and the husband who is more simple in his bringing up and idealistic in his persona with more thought to actual subject matters of study than the worldly price he can command or the path that will take him to those positions.
The young husband is last heard of as resigned and left the country, and his colleague blames the wife for having destroyed his life. This, though, is strictly patriarchal position, for in the society she is brought up in, her life is far more unlikely to blossom again, especially given her personality, while in his case there is every chance that the same society - or any other society across the world for that matter - would serve him up with tempting proposals on and on, and it would only be his own strength in resisting it that would keep him from another marriage. And if he were a little less proud or a bit more comprehending, he could look for her and claim her back, which he hasn't left her any possibility of doing. But his own limitations stop him from such a step, as the viewer comes to see by the end of the film.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MjPSPTM4lF0
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